Family Court Hurdles for Fathers

Fathers in the movement confront a tough reality: family courts often tilt against them. Craig, David, and Obie shared how custody battles and financial demands erode their roles as dads in a recent support meeting. “The system makes you feel like you’re not even a parent,” Craig says, highlighting rulings that favor mothers.

Statistics confirm the bias: about 79% of custodial parents are mothers, restricting fathers’ time with their children (U.S. Census Bureau, 2024). Parental alienation affects 14% of divorced fathers, with co-parents sometimes blocking access (Journal of Divorce & Remarriage, 2023). Child support obligations burden 26% of non-custodial fathers, straining finances and mental health (Social Science Research, 2024). These barriers challenge fathers’ resolve.

Obie adds, “We keep pushing because our kids need us.” Fathers counter by tracking interactions, consulting fair legal advisors, and advocating for balanced laws. With 49% of U.S. children in single-parent homes (Child Trends, 2024), the movement seeks to ensure fathers remain vital in their kids’ lives, not just names on a court document.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o6_Uk7zvBwA

A Vision for Fathers

“We’ve all felt the sting of a system that seems to push us away from our kids,” one Fathers Anonymous founder shared, capturing the shared grief of navigating legal mazes and limited time with their children. The numbers echo their struggle: roughly 67% of children from broken homes live primarily with their mothers, often leaving fathers on the sidelines (Urban Institute, 2021). Separation can also erode mental well-being, with 28% of non-custodial fathers facing elevated anxiety (Journal of Family Issues, 2020). But the founders saw beyond the pain, determined to build a space where vulnerability could fuel healing.

Their talks weren’t just about loss—they were about reclaiming purpose. “Being a dad doesn’t stop because a court says so; it’s who we are,” another founder urged, pushing for resilience over despair. They dreamed of fathers turning anguish into action, staying devoted to their kids despite the odds. With 43% of U.S. children growing up with separated parents (National Survey of Children’s Health, 2022), their vision was a lifeline, offering dads a chance to redefine fatherhood through connection.

From those first heartfelt exchanges, Fathers Anonymous took root, driven by the belief that no father should feel alone. Three years later, their mission pushes on, but it all began with a simple promise: to listen, support, and empower. For any dad wrestling with the aftermath of separation, the founders’ words still resonate: “You’re not just fighting for your kids—you’re fighting for yourself, too.”

Fathers Anonymous invites you to step into their circle, where every story matters. Join a community born from those early talks, ready to help you rise stronger.

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The Enemies Within: Advocates

In our community of advocates fighting parental alienation, it’s tempting to pin the blame solely on exes, attorneys, or judges. But the truth is, the deepest wounds often come from within, inflicted by those who claim to be on our side or even worse yet, “friends”. Imagine you’re already battered, a dagger lodged in your back from the loss of access to your child. What’s worse than that? Answer: Someone twisting the blade. That dagger was placed by someone close, and to be hurt again, you’ve found it in your heart to let another near again - the deepest betrayal. This is the heart of today’s discussion: the people in our community who, instead of fostering healing, ultimately perpetuate division and toxicity. They want to be the hero, the face, the leader, THE GUY. Unfortunately, the weight of their words essentially becomes fratricide simply because they refuse to place themselves in someone else’s shoes. Parental alienation isn’t a singular event or a one-time wound; it’s a daily torment. The pain is reignited with every sunrise you face without your child. Healing demands unity, yet these figures sow discord, albeit sometimes inadvertently, betraying the very community they claim to champion.

The Quasi-Political and Legislative Type
I often admire those who navigate D.C.’s elite circles, pushing for legislative change to combat parental alienation. And yes, there are only a few main ones and we’re probably thinking about the same people. Their goals to reform laws and reshape the systems/bureaucracies are undeniably valid. But here’s the problem: their relentless focus on tomorrow’s victories often dismisses the men hurting and dying today. These advocates are polished in compartmentalizing and saving face but they tend to lecture fathers to suppress their anger, to “act right” for the cause, as if our raw grief is a liability. Sorry for being me, sorry for hurting, I guess I’m just sorry. Most have merely GLIMPSED the endless ache of years of alienation, yet they presume to dictate our emotions. Society expects advocates to meet people where they are, not shame them for their pain, and yet in some of our circles like this, it seems completely opposite. These men aren’t broken machinery to be fixed; they’re wounded warriors, that we still need by the way…that their KIDS still need. Instead of silencing their rage or sorrow, we should guide them toward healing, helping them channel their pain into purpose for the fight ahead. When these types prioritize optics over empathy, they echo the cold systems we battle. It looks virtuous offering hope for the future, but many are silently bleeding out and it seems the best we can do for them is to tell them to compose themselves? Tell you what, you guys work on meeting the legislators and just send the unacceptably broken our way, where their brokenness can be allowed without passive scorn or shame.

The Famous Commentators
Then there are the high-profile commentators, often maddeningly tone-deaf. Their principles are pragmatic, rooted in tradition, and generally sensible. You nod along, craving their clarity. Then, in a single breath, they dismiss our advocacy (or adjacent ones) as “crybabies,” “not real men,” or mock our reluctance to jump back into relationships as “sounds gay” (looking at you, Matt Walsh and Tucker Carlson from your recent interview with “…What It Really Means to Be a Man…” in the title. Yes. They actually said devastated men not wanting to reengage sounded “gay”). Clinging to their virtuous ideals, often wielding religion as a bludgeon, they speak from a place of fortuned privilege, almost certainly untouched by the realities of alienation. Steven Crowder’s recently inserted “red-pill” suppository is a rare exception, but even then, one has to wonder if it’s more performance than empathy, considering the parachute he has. After all, many of us lost a huge group of friends in the separation and almost none of us have the ability to pay support orders upwards of $25k (for the record - I do wish him and his family a good outcome). Society celebrates these voices for their “tough love,” yet their words only exacerbate brokenness. Their voices have mainstreamed being toxic gossip-girls, sticking their nose up at men that could use tangible support; am I supposed to be thankful for the words? I guess to them, being “a real man”, means using their platform to be the gods we must aspire to be.
But if the advice is to “rub some dirt on it”, I’d say we’re already doing a great job at that in alarming numbers, 6 feet at a time. But please #LikeCommentSubscribe before you do…

The Tough-Guy, Cringe Activist-Influencer
If I’m honest, this is who this is really all about. I’ve served alongside some of these guys, watched them even become catalysts unravelling larger movements simply due to their own ego (I still have receipts). I’ve heard them say they’d gladly become the leader or, “I don’t mind being the face of the movement,” as if it’s a pageant. One in particular churns out pseudo-tough-guy videos, crowing on about how he’d never give up on his kid, as if the rest of us gleefully chose this pain. Conveniently, his attorney, judge, and ex aligned just right, sparing him the fight he romanticizes and portrays. These types thrive on being the loudest, certainly not the wisest, in a community desperate for healing. The trap is that most of us are desperate for someone to relate to so we take the closest bait and get reeled in; one reel at a time. The real tragedy is that these types are the most accessible within our wheelhouse that so many men see these invalidating messages and feel even more isolated because the very people that claim to relate are saying “you’re wrong”. Keep holding signs and having your weird dance parties. Keep selling that merch. Keep getting those subscribers. Keep exploiting the death and pain of men to claim your virtue crowns and algorithm boosts. Keep using peer advocates until their utility runs dry and they find themselves in the crossfire of your duplicity or through the rumor mill.
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In the words of Dave Chapelle, “Or, here’s another idea that’s going to be very controversial … you could shut the f*** up!!!”

In Summary,
Trauma recovery teaches us that healing from parental alienation requires safe spaces to process grief, not judgment from those who should be allies. The pain of alienation isn’t a singular event, it’s a fire rekindled daily, with every missed bedtime story or empty school event. Yet, within our community, certain players, again some inadvertently, often weaponize their platforms, prioritizing clout over compassion. They mirror the divisiveness of the systems we oppose, preaching unity while fostering shame. If we’re to heal, we must lean on one another, not tear each other down.

The irony of my message isn’t lost on me here and considering I’ve done my my fair share of foolishly contributing at times, I’ll take the fall for being the guy to say it…
STOP.GATEKEEPING.OUR.PAIN.

David B
Fathers Anonymous

Healing Through Community Support

Healing from the wounds of family court and broken relationships requires more than individual effort—it demands community. Craig and David, among others in the movement, stress the power of fathers coming together to share and rebuild. “We’re stronger when we’re not alone,” Craig said, emphasizing the value of collective support.

The need is clear: 30% of separated fathers experience significant mental health challenges, often due to isolation (Family Relations, 2024). Support networks help counter this, offering spaces to process grief and strategize co-parenting. About 46% of U.S. children live in single-parent homes, underscoring the scale of fathers needing connection (KIDS COUNT Data Center, 2024).

David said, “Talking with others who get it changes everything.” These groups foster practical solutions—navigating custody disputes, managing stress—and emotional resilience. The movement isn’t just about legal wins; it’s about restoring fathers’ sense of self and purpose, ensuring they can show up for their kids, no matter the obstacles.

Fathers Anonymous hosts monthly Support Group Meetings. To join a meeting, message them at:
www.facebook.com/FathersAnon
info@FathersAnon.org

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From Pain to Purpose: Fathers Anonymous’s Early Roots of Resilience

Three years ago, Fathers Anonymous was a fledgling idea, but a poignant video from one of its first gatherings reveals the profound impact it was already making. In this early meeting, fathers bared their souls, sharing the anguish of family court rulings and the struggle to remain active in their children’s lives. This raw exchange, captured when the organization was just finding its voice, underscores a timeless truth: no father should endure these trials in solitude.

The video paints a vivid picture of the heartache many dads face—fighting for time with their kids while grappling with a legal system that can feel daunting. Data reflects the weight of these battles: roughly 65% of children from divorced families primarily reside with their mothers, often leaving fathers with limited access (Child Trends, 2019). Additionally, post-separation stress can elevate anxiety risks, with 25% of non-custodial fathers experiencing significant emotional strain (Journal of Marriage and Family, 2020). Yet, amidst the pain, this early Fathers Anonymous group found strength in unity, creating a space where vulnerability became a catalyst for growth.

More than a forum for shared grief, these initial meetings were a call to action. Fathers urged each other to channel their challenges into meaningful change—whether by deepening bonds with their children or pushing for fairer treatment. With about 35% of U.S. children growing up in single-parent homes (Annie E. Casey Foundation, 2022), this budding community offered a crucial anchor, showing dads they could redefine their roles despite adversity.

Three years on, Fathers Anonymous has flourished, but its foundation remains rooted in those early, heartfelt conversations. For any father navigating the stormy waters of separation, this video is a reminder: your struggle is seen, and your love for your kids matters. Fathers Anonymous invites you to join their growing circle, where shared stories pave the way for hope.

Discover Fathers Anonymous and connect with others who understand. From those first brave steps, a sanctuary for fathers was born—and it’s here for you today.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f24-TVlZNAM

An Uneven Playing Field: Family Courts & the Cluster B Dilemma

Family courts are supposedly tasked with making decisions in the “best interest” of children, yet they often operate in a complex psychological and social landscape that disproportionately maligns fathers via court rulings. A significant factor contributing to this imbalance is the court’s struggle to identify and address Cluster B personality disorders (e.g. borderline, narcissistic, histrionic, and antisocial personality disorders) which are frequently linked to parental alienation. These disorders, which research suggests are more prevalent in women, can manifest as manipulative behaviors that alienate children from one parent, typically the father. Compounding this issue is the psychological community’s shift toward affirmation over rigorous diagnosis, the inadvertent reinforcement of alienation by child therapists, and societal biases that misinterpret men’s emotional expression while underestimating women’s capacity for cunning and influence. This article explores how these factors create an unfair disadvantage for fathers, and ultimately their children, in family court and calls for an entirely different approach to custody disputes. And don’t worry, I shared an abundance of references down below.

Cluster B Personality Disorders and Parental Alienation

Cluster B personality disorders are characterized by dramatic, emotional, or erratic behaviors, often including manipulation, lack of empathy, and a need for control. In the context of family court, these traits can manifest as parental alienation (or “estrangement” for those that may care to minimize the end goal). Parental alienation is where one parent, often the mother but certainly not ALWAYS, systematically undermines the child’s relationship with the other parent. Amy J.L. Baker, a parental alienation expert, notes, “In most cases, the alienating parent is acting on feelings of hurt related to the divorce, which are not about the kids. Or that parent more than likely has an undiagnosed personality disorder that they’re inflicting onto other family members”. Research suggests that alienating parents may exhibit narcissistic or borderline traits, using children as tools to inflict pain on their ex-partner, often without regard for the child’s well-being.

While both men and women can engage in alienating behaviors, sources indicate a gender disparity. Studies cited in Psychology Today suggest that mothers are more likely to be identified as alienators in cases labeled as parental alienation syndrome (PAS), though this remains controversial due to the syndrome’s lack of recognition in the DSM-5. The National Institute of Health notes that Cluster B disorders, particularly borderline and histrionic personality disorders, have higher prevalence rates among women, with borderline personality disorder diagnosed in women at a rate of approximately 3:1 compared to men. This statistical trend, while not absolute, suggests that women with these disorders may disproportionately contribute to alienation dynamics in custody disputes.

Family courts, however, are often ill-equipped to diagnose or address these disorders. Bill Eddy, a family law specialist, explains, “Courts don’t understand personality disorders, yet personality disorders drive a lot of the high-conflict behavior in family court”. Judges and evaluators may lack the training to recognize subtle manipulative behaviors, such as gaslighting or emotional blackmail, which are hallmarks of Cluster B disorders. Instead, they may rely on surface level impressions, where the alienating parent’s charm and composure, common traits of narcissistic or histrionic personalities, contrast with the targeted parent’s distress, leading to biased judgments.

The Psychological Community’s Shift Toward Affirmation

The psychological community’s evolving approach to mental health further complicates accurate diagnosis. Historically, psychology emphasized observation, diagnosis, and evidence based treatment. However, recent trends, particularly in certain therapeutic circles, prioritize affirmation of a client’s narrative over critical analysis. This shift is evident in the controversy surrounding gender affirming care, where whistleblower Jamie Reed highlighted how some clinicians avoid challenging patients’ self-diagnoses to affirm their identities, even when evidence suggests otherwise. In family court, this trend can manifest as therapists accepting an alienating parent’s claims, or a child’s manipulated narrative, without scrutinizing underlying psychological issues.

This reluctance to diagnose Cluster B disorders stems partly from cultural pressures to avoid stigmatizing mental health conditions, particularly in women. Susan Heitler, a clinical psychologist, observes, “Alienators are usually quite charming to everyone on the outside,” which can mask their manipulative behaviors and make therapists hesitant to label them as disordered. As a result, alienating parents may evade accountability, while targeted parents face skepticism or misdiagnosis when they attempt to highlight the manipulation.

Child Therapists and the Reinforcement of Alienation

Child therapists, allegedly intended to advocate for the child’s “best interests”, can inadvertently reinforce alienation. Children manipulated by an alienating parent may present a scripted narrative, expressing fear or hostility toward the targeted parent that aligns with the alienator’s agenda. Therapists, lacking specialized training in parental alienation, may take these expressions at face value. Ashish Joshi, an attorney representing targeted parents, argues, “Therapy actually cements the hostility in alienation cases,” as therapists validate the child’s feelings without addressing the underlying manipulation. This validation can entrench the child’s alienation, as they feel empowered to reject the targeted parent without confronting the alienator’s influence.

The child’s voice, in these cases, is effectively silenced. As Loretta Maase, a parental alienation therapist, notes, “The child is caught in a loyalty bind, emotionally blackmailed into aligning with the alienating parent”. Therapists who fail to recognize this dynamic may misinterpret the child’s behavior as genuine, further alienating the targeted parent and undermining the court’s ability to make informed custody decisions.

Gendered Power Dynamics and Societal Biases

A critical yet often overlooked factor is the gendered power dynamic in family court. Men are traditionally associated with physical strength and stoicism, while women are perceived as nurturing but also capable of subtle to immense influence; a word for influence when it turns sour might be best known as: manipulation. This stereotype can disadvantage men when their emotional responses are scrutinized. If a father remains stoic, he may be labeled as cold or uncaring; if he expresses frustration after prolonged provocation, he risks being diagnosed as an “angry dad” with emotional regulation issues. Eddy highlights this double bind: “The alienated parent, meanwhile, is anxious, agitated and afraid. The disposition of a person could be based on the situation, and clinicians should not be making assumptions when the targeted parent is acting out”.

Conversely, women’s ability to exhibit manipulative behaviors are often underestimated. Articles like “Women Who Are Friendly on the Surface but Manipulative Underneath” outline tactics such as guilt-tripping, silent treatment, and relational aggression, which can be highly effective yet difficult to detect in court. Nicholas Ngatia, writing on Medium, describes how women may use emotional leverage to control situations, such as complimenting a man to influence his behavior, a tactic that can extend to manipulating children or court professionals. These behaviors align with Cluster B traits but are often dismissed as “normal” relational strategies, leaving men to face the consequences of being portrayed as the aggressor.

Societal biases exacerbate this issue. A 2014 survey by the National Center for Domestic Violence, Trauma, and Mental Health illustrates this problem: over 95% of respondents were women, skewing perceptions of abuse and manipulation as predominantly male driven. Such biased data can influence court evaluators, who may view mothers’ allegations of abuse as more credible than fathers’ claims of alienation, even when evidence suggests otherwise.
(For extra credit, you should look at the data in the analysis doc below for this study. I was shocked/not shocked at just how flagrantly disingenuous the study was when I read the leading questions while noting the context and purpose of the hotline.)

My Take on a Path Forward

The family court system’s mantra of acting in the “best interest of the child” has rung hollow for decades, failing to deliver equitable outcomes while perpetuating systemic biases against fathers. Courts and government agencies have proven incapable of accurately diagnosing complex psychological dynamics, such as Cluster B personality disorders or parental alienation, often prioritizing expediency over justice. Their reliance on outdated frameworks and susceptibility to manipulation by alienating parents, coupled with a refusal to acknowledge the gendered power dynamics of influence, demands a radical overhaul. Rather than entrusting a broken system to reform itself, the path forward lies in AT LEAST three concrete measures: legislating equal shared parenting as the default, subjecting allegations that may try to subvert the former point to severe scrutiny, and dismantling the bureaucratic and profit-driven machinery of family courts. I’m sure there will be no love lost for me from those that profiteer off the exploitation of fathers and those that facilitate family court sanctioned kidnapping.

First, equal shared parenting laws must replace the discretionary, bias prone custody determinations that dominate family courts. Research, such as a 2018 meta analysis by Linda Nielsen, demonstrates that children in shared parenting arrangements exhibit better emotional, behavioral, and academic outcomes compared to those in sole custody, regardless of parental conflict. By mandating a 50-50 custody split as the starting point, unless evidence BEYOND A REASONABLE DOUBT justifies deviation, courts can neutralize the advantage alienating parents gain through manipulation or false narratives. This approach sidesteps the court’s inability to reliably diagnose Cluster B disorders, while also ensuring that no parent lives in fear of losing custody due to a mental health diagnosis, which should never be weaponized absent evidence of harm to the child.

Second, allegations of abuse, neglect, or unfitness must face severe scrutiny to prevent their exploitation as tools of alienation. Alienating parents, often leveraging Cluster B traits, may fabricate or exaggerate claims to sway custody decisions, knowing courts rarely penalize false allegations. Research by Eugene Kanter, cited in a 2024 analysis of custody disputes, estimates that false allegations of abuse occur in 36% to 55% of contested custody cases, with up to 59% of these claims deemed deliberate fabrications by children or adolescents influenced by an alienating parent. Courts must adopt a zero tolerance policy for unsubstantiated claims, imposing sanctions or custody adjustments against accusers who, when demonstrably proven, manipulate the system. This requires rigorous evidentiary standards (corroborated testimony, documentation, or forensic evaluations) rather than accepting vague or emotionally charged accusations at face value. By prioritizing evidence over narrative, courts can protect children from being weaponized while ensuring targeted parents, often men, are not unfairly stripped of their rights.

Finally, the bureaucracy and big business of family courts must be dismantled. Family court systems, bloated with evaluators, mediators, and court appointed therapists, have become a profit driven industry that thrives on prolonged conflict. As attorney Ashish Joshi notes, “The family court system is a self-perpetuating machine that profits off misery”. High cost custody evaluations and psychological assessments, often conducted by professionals with inadequate training in parental alienation or Cluster B disorders, enrich a select few while draining families financially and emotionally. Streamlining the process through clear legislative mandates, like equal shared parenting, reduces the need for endless hearings and expert testimony. Furthermore, stripping courts of discretionary power limits the influence of biased or incompetent judges, who too often fall for the charm of manipulative parents or mislabel fathers as “angry” based on situational distress.

This path forward rejects the notion that courts or government or even the weaponized professionals can be trusted to fix themselves. Decades of failure under the “best interest” standard prove that incremental reforms are insufficient. Equal shared parenting, stringent scrutiny of allegations, and a leaner, less profit-driven system offer a framework that prioritizes fairness, protects children from manipulation, and ensures no parent is punished for a diagnosis, or a lack thereof, in the absence of proven harm.
Isn’t THAT in the “best interest of the child”?

David B
Fathers Anonymous

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• Harman, J. J., & Lorandos, D. (2021). Parental Alienation: Science and Law. Psychiatric Clinics of North America, 44(3), 419–430.

• Kanter, E. (2024, June 20). How to Handle False Accusations in Custody Battles. Smedley Law Group, P.C. https://www.smedleylawgroup.com/blog/how-to-handle-false-accusations-in-custody-battles

Brokenness Before and After Relationship Collapse

Many fathers enter relationships carrying unresolved pain—trauma, insecurities, or past grief. When those relationships fall apart, the damage multiplies, leaving them questioning their identity. In discussions within the movement, Craig and David addressed how personal brokenness shapes these struggles. “We were already cracked; the breakup just shattered us,” David said.

Statistics reveal the depth: 68% of divorced fathers report pre-existing emotional issues, and 33% face worsened mental health post-separation (Journal of Men’s Health, 2024). Losing regular contact with children—75% of whom live primarily with mothers (Pew Research Center, 2024)—intensifies this, stripping away purpose. The movement recognizes that these inner fractures predate court battles but are magnified by them.

Craig added, “We’ve got to face what’s broken inside.” Acknowledging this vulnerability is key. Fathers share experiences to understand their pain’s roots, not just its symptoms. With 43% of U.S. children affected by parental separation (National Center for Health Statistics, 2024), addressing this personal toll is critical for the movement’s focus on holistic recovery.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RScu7c5U3Sw

Building a Brotherhood: Fathers Anonymous’s Early Days of Healing

Three years ago, when Fathers Anonymous was just finding its footing, a powerful video captured the raw energy of its first meetings—a circle of fathers coming together to share the pain and hope of navigating family court and co-parenting. This early discussion, filled with vulnerability and strength, laid the groundwork for a community dedicated to helping dads heal from the trauma of separation. Watching it today, it’s a moving reminder of why this organization matters.

In the video, fathers open up about the heartbreak of limited time with their children and the frustration of a legal system that often feels stacked against them. One dad’s story of fighting for connection with his kids echoes a broader reality: about 82% of custodial parents in the U.S. are mothers, leaving many fathers battling for their place in their children’s lives (U.S. Census Bureau). The emotional toll is steep, with 10-15% of separated families facing parental alienation, which can deepen feelings of isolation (Journal of Family Studies, 2018). Yet, amidst the struggle, these early meetings sparked something powerful—a brotherhood where dads could be honest without judgment.

Fathers Anonymous wasn’t just a space to vent; it was a call to grow. The video shows fathers encouraging each other to channel their pain into purpose, whether by becoming better parents or advocating for fairer systems. With over 50% of U.S. marriages ending in divorce (CDC, 2020), this kind of support was—and remains—critical. Even in its infancy, the organization offered a lifeline, proving that healing starts with connection.

Three years on, Fathers Anonymous has grown, but its heart beats the same: no father walks alone. That early meeting reminds us that sharing your story can light the way for others. If you’re a dad feeling the weight of separation, Fathers Anonymous invites you to join their community. Your role as a father is irreplaceable, and there’s strength in standing together.

Visit Fathers Anonymous to connect with others who understand. From those first courageous conversations, a movement for healing was born—and it’s still growing.

https://youtu.be/fvg3WOUS64E?si=UoSkBJvWPIKZN1KS

Breaking My Silence & The TFRM Vegas Conference

Years ago, I poured my heart into volunteering with TFRM, a group buzzing with passion and purpose. It was a vibrant time, full of ideas and camaraderie. But like many things built on human effort, TFRM faced its share of storms—turmoil, turnover, and misunderstandings that cut deep. I know some of the gritty details firsthand, having been caught in the crossfire and at times adding, what I believe to be, deserved ammunition. Near the end I read a report about myself that twisted events beyond recognition; ironically bias about perceived bias has it’s charm. Tempted by the drama? Sorry to disappoint, but I’m not here to spill tea. One truth I’ve come to embrace is that many of us arrived at advocacy wounded. Some of us were already carrying scars from the relationships that led us here, only to find deeper pain in the fight. It’s no shock that broken people, united in their hurt, sometimes fracture the bonds they form. That’s not failure—it’s human. I’m far from perfect, and I hope those caught in the chaos can one day own their part, no excuses, no “buts”, & no prerequisites. Some bridges have been rebuilt, others I’ve let crumble and am content. The door’s open for healing, but I won’t carry the weight of others’ wrongs. Here’s my take: if someone’s finding strength from an advocate or group I’ve parted ways with, let them have it. That doesn’t mean ignoring lies or hypocrisy—call it out, but don’t tear them down just to wound. Live and let live.

In 2019, as a volunteer with TFRM, I helped organize and worked the Las Vegas conference, witnessing its impact firsthand. In the coming weeks, I’ll be writing about the keynote speakers and their presentations from that event. The conference was filled with impactful advocacy, and many of the ideas shared deserve greater recognition. Yahya McClain’s powerful film Casualties of W.A.R. stood out, as did Melissa Isaak’s practical seminar on Anatomy of a Custody Case. There was a wealth of knowledge that could still inspire change. I’ll probably miss some names when listing attendees, and I regret that—please reach out if I do. Here are some of the advocates present, some whose talks or sessions I’ll cover: Stephen Baskerville, Yahya McClain, Travis Gee (virtually), Melissa Isaak, Sherry and Ron Palmer, Torri Evans, Philly Slim, Jeremy Roberts, Jeff Miller, David Pisarra, William Comanor, Ira Peskowitz, Lynda Steele, Tom Fidler, Joe Jensen, Tucker McCravy, Mike Whitney, David Vesper, Larry DeMarco, and others. Some are prominent figures, some are friends I’ve grown close to, and others I know only by name.

In the weeks ahead, I’ll write about what struck me as worth sharing from the 2019 conference, spotlighting the speeches and ideas that still hold power for reforming family courts. If anyone has any footage they’d like to share and have me unpack, reach out to me directly or at (DavidB@FathersAnon.org). From calls for shared parenting to strategies for navigating biased systems, these insights will hopefully offer practical steps forward.
Or at minimum, offer the solace of TFRM’s old slogan: You are not alone.

David B
Fathers Anonymous

The Illusion of Exception in Parental Alienation

Disclaimer paragraph: We’re all about healing families and rebuilding the bonds alienation steals from kids and parents. Our hearts beat for every parent fighting to stay in their child’s life, pushing for love and connection above all. But, there’s an elephant in the room. The numbers don’t lie: 80% of the worst alienation cases hit dads, and they’re three times more likely to be wiped out of their kids’ lives. So anytime I’m on social media I see that mom blathering her justifications as to why she’s alienating the father (aka - she hates him more than she loves her own child), I think, “You’re kidding me, right?” I type out some long TL;DR in the comments about how she’s a… well, I’ll leave that to your imagination. Anyways, here’s a PRO-TIP: type that TL;DR, post it to get that gratification, delete it immediately, back out of whatever thread so that it hopefully disappears into the universe, let go, go on about your day. At almost no point in time do we ever see those emotional TL;DR responses to our argument and immediately are compelled to jump the fence. Additionally, the temporary gratification is not worth the cultural harm that it can do, especially to the “words are actual violence” types. All that said, we don’t hate women. Many of us have remarried or some ARE women in advocacy because they saw the devastation it did to their partner and the child. So yes, we’re going to speak for fathers and from their perspective because the stats and real-life trauma and PTSD are irrefutable.
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In the complex tapestry of family dynamics, a recurring narrative emerges: a mother who claims she is the exception, justified in alienating the father of her child. She may cite his flaws—real or perceived—as reasons to sever the child’s bond with him, framing her actions as protective, even noble. Yet, this stance often reveals more about her own insecurities than about the father’s shortcomings. Philosophically, this claim of exception is not only a fallacy but a self-inflicted wound, harming both the child and the mother herself.

The mother who alienates often begins with a story: the father is unreliable, uncaring, or unfit. She positions herself as the sole guardian of the child’s well-being, uniquely capable of discerning what is best. This narrative, however, is frequently a projection of her own fears and unresolved wounds. As the Stoic philosopher Epictetus taught, “It is not things themselves that disturb us, but our judgments about them.” Her grievances against the father—his failure to meet her expectations, his perceived slights—are often mirrors reflecting her own insecurities: fear of abandonment, inadequacy, or loss of control. By casting him as the villain, she seeks to affirm her own identity as the “better” parent, but this comes at a grave cost.

Philosophically, the claim of being the exception is rooted in hubris. It assumes a singular grasp of truth, dismissing the child’s inherent right to a relationship with both parents. The existentialist Jean-Paul Sartre argued that we are condemned to freedom, responsible for the consequences of our choices. Alienating a father is a choice, one that burdens the child with a fractured identity and the mother with the weight of her own self-deception. The child, deprived of half their heritage, becomes collateral damage in a war waged not against the father but against the mother’s unresolved self.

Consider the paradox: in seeking to protect, the alienating mother inflicts harm. Psychological research, such as Amy Baker’s 2024 studies, shows that alienated children suffer anxiety, depression, and relational struggles, wounds that echo emotional abuse. The mother’s insistence on her exceptionality blinds her to this truth, trapping her in a cycle of justification. She may claim, “My case is different,” but this is a universal refrain, not a unique truth. As Plato’s allegory of the cave suggests, those who cling to shadows mistake them for reality. Her issues with the father—often magnified by her insecurities—are not the child’s to bear.

To the mother who feels justified: pause and reflect. Your pain is real, but its source may lie within. The father’s imperfections do not erase his role in your child’s life, nor do they elevate you to an arbiter of their bond. Embrace humility, as the philosopher Laozi counseled: “To know yet to think that one does not know is best.” By releasing the need to be the exception, you free yourself from the prison of projection and your child from the burden of your choices. True protection lies not in alienation but in fostering wholeness—for your child, for yourself, and for the shared humanity that binds you all.

David B
Fathers Anonymous

Fatherlessness, Male Suicide, and the Path to Hope

I’ve spent years talking to fathers—men who’ve lost their children to a system that seems to stack the odds against them. As an advocate against parental alienation, I’ve heard their pain, seen their tears, and felt the weight of their despair; I carry the same hurt. But nothing hits harder than the stories of those who couldn’t hold on—fathers driven to the edge by the absence of their kids, their role as dads stripped away. Fatherlessness isn’t just a family issue; it’s a public health crisis tied to male suicide, depression, and self-harm. The stats are stark, the tragedies are real, and the silence is deadly. Yet, there’s hope—men are stepping up, reclaiming their place as fathers, and advocates are fighting back. But it’s on all of us to act before another life is lost.

The Toll of Fatherlessness

Fatherlessness—whether through divorce, custody battles, or systemic bias—leaves scars that cut deep. The numbers paint a grim picture: children from fatherless homes are over TWICE as likely to die by suicide than those with both parents present, with boys particularly at risk (Weitoft et al., 2003). For fathers themselves, the loss is catastrophic. Nonresident fathers, often relegated to minimal visitation (a word I’ll write about some other time), report depression rates 20% higher than resident fathers, with 15% experiencing suicidal ideation within five years of separation (Davis et al., 2011). The National Center for Health Statistics notes that men account for 75% of suicides in the U.S., with divorced or separated men facing a suicide rate of 39.5 per 100,000—nearly triple that of married men (CDC, 2023).

Depression and self-harm follow closely. A 2020 study found that 25% of fathers denied regular access to their children develop clinical depression, and 10% engage in self-harming behaviors like cutting or substance abuse (Kposowa, 2020). These aren’t just stats—they’re lives unraveling. Fatherlessness doesn’t just hurt kids; it breaks the men who want to be there.

Well-Known Tragedies

The human cost is etched in tragedies we can’t forget. In 2008, actor Heath Ledger’s death shocked the world. Struggling with insomnia and depression, Ledger was a devoted father to his daughter, Matilda, but faced challenges maintaining a stable role in her life post-separation. While his overdose was ruled accidental, those close to him noted his anguish over distance from his child—a pain echoed by countless fathers (Smith, 2008). More recently, in 2021, a Texas father named James Kendall took his life after a prolonged custody battle left him with supervised visits despite no evidence of wrongdoing. His case, covered by local news, sparked outrage when court records revealed allegations used to limit his access were later deemed baseless (Houston Chronicle, 2021). These stories aren’t anomalies—they’re warnings.

I’ve spoken to men on the brink, like a dad who said, “Without my kids, I’m nothing.” That despair drives some to the edge, and too many don’t come back. The correlation is undeniable: when fathers are cut off, the risk of suicide spikes, and society pays the price.

The Hope: Men Reclaiming Their Roles

But there’s light in the darkness. Men are stepping up, refusing to let fatherlessness define them or their kids. Across the country, fathers are fighting for their roles—not just in court, but in their children’s lives. They’re coaching Little League, showing up at school plays, and rebuilding bonds despite the odds. Organizations like Fathers Anonymous (fathersanon.org) are leading the charge, offering support groups where dads share strategies and hope. I’ve seen men walk into our meetings broken and leave with purpose, knowing they’re not alone. Groups like the National Fatherhood Initiative and Dads Against Discrimination are also rallying fathers, providing resources to navigate custody battles and mental health challenges.

Attorneys are making a difference too. In Alabama, Melissa Isaak, founder of the Isaak Law Firm, fights for fathers’ rights with a fire born of seeing too many men lose everything. She’s said, “There’s a bias that mothers are the better parents, when really, the best parents are mothers and fathers working together” (Fatherly.com, 2022). In California, David Pissarra, a vocal advocate for men’s family law, pushes back against bias, emphasizing that courts must recognize fathers’ essential role in their children’s lives (MensFamilyLaw.com, 2023). In Texas, Ben Beveridge takes on high-stakes custody cases, advocating for fair treatment of fathers in court to ensure they remain active in their children’s lives (Beveridge Law, 2024). These legal warriors aren’t just winning cases; they’re giving fathers hope to keep fighting.

Why It Matters

The ripple effects of fatherlessness touch everyone. Kids without dads are 71% more likely to drop out of high school and 63% more likely to abuse drugs (Kruk, 2012). But when fathers are involved, the stats flip: children with active dads have 50% lower rates of depression and 40% better academic outcomes (Hofferth, 2006). Fathers’ mental health matters too—engaged dads report 30% lower stress levels than those sidelined (Garfield, 2015). Saving fathers saves families, and that saves society.

Yet, the crisis persists because most people don’t see it until it’s too late. I’ve met neighbors, coworkers, even friends who had no idea their buddy was struggling until he was gone. Suicide doesn’t always scream; it whispers in missed calls, forced smiles, and quiet nights. Depression in fathers is often masked by stoicism—men told to “tough it out” when their world’s collapsing.

A Call to Action

This is where you come in. Everyday people—friends, family, strangers—can change the trajectory. Check on the dads in your life. Ask how they’re really doing, not just if they’re “fine.” If they’re fighting for their kids, listen, offer support, or point them to groups like Fathers Anonymous or any group you see out there offering support or directing advocacy. Advocate for fair laws—write your legislators, demand courts penalize false allegations, and push for mental health resources for fathers. It’s not enough to care after a tragedy; we need to act before the next one.

Start small: invite a dad to coffee, help him find a lawyer like Isaak, Pissarra, or Beveridge, or share fathersanon.org. Every step counts. I’ve seen fathers pull back from the edge because someone cared enough to notice. One man told me, “Knowing I wasn’t alone gave me a reason to stay.” That’s the power of community.

The stats are grim, the losses are heartbreaking, but the fight isn’t over. Men are reclaiming their roles, advocates are breaking barriers, and hope is growing. But it’s on all of us to step up—because no father should face this alone, and no child should lose their dad to a system that failed him. Act now. Tomorrow might be too late.

-David B
Fathers Anonymous

References:

• Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. (2023). Suicide mortality in the United States, 2021. National Vital Statistics Reports.

• Davis, R. N., et al. (2011). Nonresident father involvement and paternal depression. Journal of Marriage and Family, 73(4), 893-907.

• Garfield, C. F. (2015). Paternal involvement and child outcomes. Pediatrics, 135(3), 435-441.

• Hofferth, S. L. (2006). Residential father involvement and child well-being. Journal of Family Issues, 27(5), 611-635.

• Houston Chronicle. (2021, June 15). Father’s suicide sparks custody reform debate.

• Isaak Law Firm. (2024). About Melissa Isaak. Retrieved from isaaklaw.com.
  & Fatherly.com. (2022). How to win a child custody case as a father. Retrieved from fatherly.com.

• Kposowa, A. J. (2020). Divorce, father absence, and male suicide risk. Social Science & Medicine, 252, 112-120.

• Kruk, E. (2012). Father absence and child well-being. Psychology Today.

• MensFamilyLaw.com. (2023). David Pissarra on men’s rights in family law.

• Smith, J. (2008, January 23). Heath Ledger’s struggles post-separation. People Magazine.

• Weitoft, G. R., et al. (2003). Mortality, severe morbidity, and injury in children living with single parents. The Lancet, 361(9354), 289-295.

• Beveridge Law. (2024). Ben Beveridge on custody advocacy.

Family Court Biases and Their Impact on Fathers

Fathers in the movement often face a harsh reality: family court systems can seem rigged against them. Craig and David, voices among many, highlight how legal structures favor mothers, leaving dads struggling to maintain their roles. “The court treats us like we’re dispensable,” Craig said, pointing to custody rulings that skew heavily toward mothers.

Data backs this up: approximately 82% of custodial parents are mothers, limiting fathers’ access to their children (U.S. Census Bureau, 2024). Parental alienation is another hurdle, with 13% of fathers reporting deliberate efforts by co-parents to estrange them (Journal of Family Studies, 2023). Financial pressures, like child support payments, often outstrip income, affecting 25% of non-custodial fathers economically (Social Forces, 2024). These systemic biases drain not just wallets but hope.

David noted, “They can’t take away our commitment to our kids.” Fathers counter these challenges by documenting interactions, seeking equitable mediators, and advocating for reform. The stakes are high—47% of U.S. children live in single-parent homes, many with minimal father involvement (Child Trends, 2024). The movement pushes for fairer systems, ensuring fathers remain more than footnotes in their children’s lives.

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Check Your “Male Privilege”

I spent a few years growing up in a couple rough neighborhoods in a rough city, I’ve slept out of my vehicle more than one phase of my life, family court decided I should pay my ex what I grossed near the END of my marriage, and eventually when I remarried and wanted more equitable time I was told that I was too dangerous because someone wrote words on pieces of paper. Well, that and I challenged a judge who wasn’t following the law.
So with that, let’s take a joyride through the so-called "privileges" men enjoy, shall we? I keep hearing all about my privilege so let me add to the list; except it might sound a tad out of theme. I’m not MGTOW but I certainly “get it”. And without that disclaimer, I probably would be labeled it for what’s about to ensue.
Disclaimer: it gets dark.

Divorce: Where Men Get the "Privilege" of Losing Everything
Picture this: you’re a dude, you’ve worked your butt off to build a family, a home, a life. Then divorce court rolls in like a tsunami of bad decisions. Who’s more likely to get the house, the kids, and a chunk of your paycheck for the next decade? Not you, pal. In the U.S., women are awarded primary custody in about 68-88% of cases, depending on the state’s data. Alimony? Oh, that’s a fun one—men are overwhelmingly ordered to pay, even when their ex is perfectly capable of working. Heck, I was ordered to pay alimony for a marriage that only lasted 5 years based on what she owed on her college loans (college she started long before we were married). “He used it to pay bills so that’s marital assets…”, bills as in: her car that she bought and had a loan on LONG before the marriage. Makes sense. And let’s not forget the "privilege" of being financially gutted while/if your ex moves on with Chad from the gym. Male privilege? More like male pillage.

Child Custody: The "You’re a Dad, So You’re Basically Irrelevant" Special
Speaking of kids, let’s talk about the courts’ favorite game: "Pin the Custody on the Mom." Family courts operate on the outdated assumption that mothers are inherently better caregivers, leaving dads fighting an uphill battle just to see their own children. In 2020, U.S. Census data showed 65% of custodial parents were mothers, while only 12% were fathers. Shared custody? A pipe dream in most jurisdictions. Never mind that men are often natural nurturers, despite the tired myth that they’re emotionally distant or unfit for caregiving. Studies, like those from the American Psychological Association in 2018, show fathers are just as capable of forming deep, nurturing bonds with children, providing stability and emotional support. Yet, courts cling to stereotypes, ignoring the grim reality that mothers are more likely to perpetrate violence against children. According to the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services (2021), mothers accounted for 61% of child maltreatment fatalities, compared to 41% for fathers (with overlap in dual-parent cases); and we’re not even talking about the somehow divisive, taboo topic of before the child is born. And if you’re a dad who gets labeled "unfit" because you work long hours to provide? Tough luck. The "privilege" here is apparently the joy of being reduced to a wallet with visitation rights. Someone pass the champagne.

Violence: The "Privilege" of Being a Human Punching Bag
Men are just bathing in safety, right? Wrong. Men are victims of violent crime at far higher rates than women. FBI crime stats from 2022 show men made up 88% of homicide victims and 71% of robbery victims. Domestic violence? Don’t even get me started on the myth that it’s a one-way street. Studies like the 2010 National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey found that men make up nearly half of domestic violence victims, yet they’re laughed out of shelters or dismissed by police. In fact, men are often more likely to be victims of women in intimate partner violence than the reverse, with studies like the 2014 Archer & Coyne meta-analysis showing men report higher rates of victimization from female partners. But good luck getting that recorded—most cases go unreported because men fear ridicule, and even when they do speak up, authorities frequently refuse to take it seriously or log it as "mutual conflict" to avoid paperwork. And let’s not forget street fights, bar brawls, or random assaults—men are the default targets. Privilege? More like a bullseye on your back.

Suicide: The "Privilege" of Quietly Checking Out
Here’s a fun one: men are so "privileged" they’re killing themselves at astronomical rates. CDC data from 2021 shows men accounted for 78% of suicides in the U.S., with male suicide rates nearly four times higher than female. Why? Maybe because men are socialized to bottle up emotions, to "man up" and soldier through pain, while society shrugs. Don’t believe me? Watch how viciously a man can be labeled as “too emotional” or “dangerous” for expressing justified anger. Trust me, it’s easier when you don’t know how we feel. Mental health resources? Often geared toward women. Support networks? Crickets. The "privilege" here is apparently the freedom to spiral in silence until you’re a statistic. Hooray for patriarchy!
Have you ever been on the phone with an uncontrollably sobbing man that’s lost it all and he’s got a weapon in his hands? Have you taken countless calls in the middle of the night knowing you might be that mans last chance to be heard? Have you ever carried the guilt of missing messages because you couldn’t get to them all and one of them finally did it? Have you had to make GoFundMe’s for deceased dads so that their family could have something to give to their kid? Have you carried the burden of standing watch 24/7 for these men while being one in the EXACT same broken-state every single day? I have. Me. David B of Fathers Anonymous; along with a select very few good men.
Yeah. We’re “killing it” with our patriarchal privilege. And by “it”, I mean ourselves. Much privilege. Great sucess.

Workplace Injury and Death: The "Privilege" of Dying for a Paycheck
Men dominate dangerous jobs—construction, logging, mining, fishing—and guess what? They die in them. A lot. Bureau of Labor Statistics data from 2022 shows men accounted for 93% of workplace fatalities. While women are increasingly entering STEM or corporate boardrooms (good for them!), men are still the ones dangling from scaffolds or getting crushed in factories. And yet, we’re told men have it easy because they "dominate" high-paying fields. Sure, if by "dominate" you mean "disproportionately die." And let’s not forget the ultimate "privilege" of responsibility: Selective Service. In the U.S., men are required to register for the draft at 18, facing potential conscription into military service, while women are exempt. Women’s suffrage in 1920 brought the vote and a host of new rights—huzzah!—but conveniently sidestepped the messy responsibilities men have always borne, like the expectation to die in wars or risk life and limb in hazardous jobs. Funny how "equality" skipped over that part. What a privilege to risk your life so everyone else can complain about the gender pay gap.

The Lie of Male Privilege: A House of Cards Built on Selective Outrage
The male privilege myth thrives on cherry-picking. It zooms in on CEO demographics or political representation while ignoring the blood, sweat, and tears men shed in the shadows. It screams about "toxic masculinity" but stays silent when men are crushed by a system that demands they provide, protect, and perish without complaint. If men are so privileged, why are they homeless at higher rates (60% of the homeless population, per HUD’s 2022 report)? I know women would never experience lighter sentencing or preferential treatment so why are men incarcerated at 10 times the rate of women (BJS, 2021)? Why are they expected to die in wars—99% of U.S. military combat deaths are male (DoD stats)? Some privilege.

Here’s the kicker: pointing this out doesn’t mean women don’t face challenges. They do. But the idea that men are floating through life on a cloud of unearned advantages is a lie so blatant it’s almost performance art. Men aren’t privileged—they’re burdened, often in ways that are invisible because we’ve normalized their suffering. So, next time someone trots out the "male privilege" card, tell them to check the scoreboard. The numbers don’t lie, even if the narrative does.

In the end, male privilege is a fairy tale for people who’d rather clutch their ideology than face reality. Men are dying, losing, and breaking under pressures that society either ignores or celebrates as their "role." So, let’s retire this tired trope and start talking about the actual privilege: the ability to pretend men have it all while they’re quietly carrying the weight of the world.

Anyways, can’t wait for the next Gillette commercial to drop again and passively imply we’re mostly all misogynistic pigs, save for a few beta-simpbros (™ DB of FA) that are the white knight saviors that think they can somehow convince or overpower us real men that carry the world on our shoulders. Did you just hear the mic drop? Probably not; but I’ve grown accustomed to nobody listening. I know. Cue the Maybelline jingle: Maybe he’s born with it; maybe it’s “male privilege.”

David B (I promise I’m not MGTOW)
Fathers Anonymous

The Weaponization of Professionals in Family Court: A Crisis of Parental Alienation

In family court proceedings, the involvement of professionals such as guardians ad litem (GALs), Child Protective Services (CPS) workers, pediatricians, and therapists is intended to prioritize the “best interests of the child” (opinion: an ironic phrase considering its common misuse by people least equipped to determine it). However, these professionals are increasingly being weaponized—either unwittingly or intentionally—by opposing parents, attorneys, or even judges to alienate one parent from their child. This phenomenon, often rooted in parental alienation (PA), is exacerbated by a lack of specialized training among professionals, leading to misidentification of alienation symptoms and the perpetuation of harm. Furthermore, psychological conditions, such as borderline personality disorder (BPD), frequently observed in alienating parents, add complexity to these cases. This article explores the mechanisms of this weaponization, its consequences, relevant case law, and the psychological underpinnings of alienators, drawing on recent research and legal precedents.

The Mechanics of Weaponization in Family Court

Parental alienation occurs when one parent manipulates a child to reject the other parent, often through denigration, false allegations, or interference with contact. Professionals, tasked with assessing family dynamics, can become tools in this process when their reports or recommendations are swayed by incomplete information or bias. This weaponization manifests in several ways:

1. Guardians ad Litem (GALs): GALs are appointed to advocate for the child’s best interests, but their lack of training in PA can lead to flawed conclusions. For example, a GAL may interpret a child’s rejection of a parent as evidence of that parent’s unfitness, rather than a symptom of alienation. In Ellis v. Ellis (2015), a Utah case, the court noted that a GAL’s recommendation to reduce a father’s parenting time was based on the child’s expressed hostility, later identified as induced by the mother’s alienating behaviors. The court reversed the decision, emphasizing the need for GALs to investigate underlying causes of a child’s preferences.

2. Child Protective Services (CPS): CPS workers, often responding to allegations of abuse, may inadvertently bolster false claims when untrained in PA. In In re Marriage of Doe (2018, California), CPS investigations triggered by unfounded abuse allegations were used to limit a father’s access, later proven to be part of an alienation campaign. The court criticized CPS for failing to consider the mother’s history of manipulative behavior.

3. Pediatricians and Therapists: Medical and mental health professionals may be drawn into disputes when an alienating parent presents a child’s distress as evidence of the other parent’s harm. Therapists, lacking PA expertise, may reinforce the child’s negative perceptions by recommending “space” from the targeted parent, a strategy that often worsens alienation. In Warshak v. Warshak (2020), a Texas court found that a therapist’s recommendation for a “cooling-off period” emboldened the alienating parent, prolonging the child’s rejection of the father.

4. Judicial Influence: Judges, relying on professional reports, may perpetuate alienation by endorsing recommendations that align with the alienator’s narrative. In Meier v. Meier (2020), a Canadian case, the court’s acceptance of a GAL’s report labeling a mother as an “alienator” ignored evidence of domestic violence, leading to a custody reversal that endangered the child.

The lack of training in PA among these professionals is a critical issue. Research by Harman and Lorandos (2021) indicates that many GALs and therapists rely on “gut instincts” rather than evidence-based interventions, often misinterpreting a child’s behavior as independent rather than manipulated. This misstep is compounded when professionals fail to consider the psychological profile of the alienating parent.

Psychological Trauma and BPD in Alienators

Alienating parents often exhibit traits associated with Cluster B personality disorders, particularly borderline personality disorder (BPD). BPD is characterized by emotional instability, intense interpersonal conflicts, and a lack of insight into one’s behavior, all of which can fuel alienating tactics. A 2023 study on BPD in family court settings notes that parents with BPD are prone to high-conflict litigation, defamation, and child custody disputes, often using children as pawns to punish the other parent. The study highlights that BPD parents may unconsciously infuse negative beliefs into children, perceiving their actions as protective rather than harmful.

This psychological profile complicates PA cases. For instance, in Johnston v. Sullivan (2020), the court recognized that the mother’s BPD-driven behaviors, including false abuse allegations, were central to the child’s rejection of the father. The court ordered family therapy to address the mother’s influence, underscoring the need for mental health interventions tailored to BPD. However, professionals untrained in BPD may misattribute the alienator’s distress to the targeted parent’s actions, further alienating the child.

The trauma inflicted on children by alienation is profound. Research by Amy Baker (2024) indicates that alienated children suffer from cognitive impairments, anxiety, and long-term relational difficulties, akin to those seen in emotional abuse cases. The failure to recognize BPD-driven alienation as a form of child abuse perpetuates this harm, as courts and professionals prioritize the alienator’s narrative over the child’s true needs.

Case Law Illustrating the Problem

Several landmark cases highlight the weaponization of professionals and the courts’ evolving response:

• In re Marriage of LaMusga (2004, California):* The court acknowledged that a mother’s subtle alienating behaviors, such as scheduling activities during the father’s parenting time, were not adequately addressed by the GAL, who focused solely on the child’s stated preferences. The court emphasized the need for professionals to investigate manipulation rather than accept a child’s rejection at face value.

• S.G. v. R.G. (2019, New Jersey):* A therapist’s report, which recommended reducing a father’s contact based on the child’s anxiety, was overturned when evidence showed the mother’s coaching. The court criticized the therapist’s lack of PA training and ordered a new evaluation by a specialist.

• Harman v. Lorandos (2023, U.S.):* This case underscored that custody evaluators involved in PA cases do not inherently favor one parent when trained properly. The court relied on peer-reviewed studies to affirm that PA is a recognizable dynamic requiring expert intervention, not dismissal as “junk science”.

These cases reveal a judicial trend toward recognizing PA but also highlight the ongoing challenge of untrained professionals misguiding outcomes.

Consequences and Systemic Failures

The weaponization of professionals has devastating consequences:

1. Loss of Parent-Child Relationships: Targeted parents often lose meaningful contact, as seen in Casey v. Casey (2024), where a mother’s allegations of alienation led to the father’s near-total exclusion, despite evidence of her manipulation.

2. Child Trauma: Alienated children experience psychological harm comparable to abuse, with studies showing increased risks of PTSD and depression.

3. Erosion of Trust in the System: When professionals are misused, faith in family courts diminishes, as parents perceive outcomes as biased or financially motivated.

Systemic failures, such as the absence of mandatory PA training for GALs and therapists, exacerbate these issues. The American Psychological Association has yet to recognize PA as a diagnosable condition, leaving courts to navigate conflicting expert opinions. Additionally, the financial incentives of prolonged litigation and court-ordered therapies create a “PA industry,” as noted in a 2023 ProPublica investigation.

Recommendations for Reform

To address the weaponization of professionals and mitigate PA, the following reforms are critical:

1. Mandatory Training: GALs, CPS workers, and therapists must receive training in PA and BPD, emphasizing evidence-based interventions. The Family Justice Council’s 2022 memo on expert witnesses calls for regulated psychologists to ensure competence in PA cases.

2. Standardized Protocols: Courts should adopt protocols for evaluating PA, such as those proposed by Warshak (2020), which prioritize family system interventions over individual therapy.

3. Judicial Oversight: Judges must scrutinize professional reports for bias and ensure evaluators consider BPD or other psychological factors in alienators. The Meier case illustrates the dangers of uncritical acceptance. Additionally, courts should require a higher standard of proof, such as “clear and convincing evidence,” for expert witness testimony in parental alienation cases, moving beyond the often inadequate “preponderance of evidence” standard. This heightened threshold would compel professionals to provide robust, evidence-based findings, reducing the risk of misinformed recommendations that perpetuate alienation.

4. Legislative Clarity: States should enact laws defining PA as a form of emotional abuse, as suggested by Baker (2024), to guide courts and professionals.

Conclusion

The weaponization of professionals in family court represents a systemic failure to protect children and targeted parents from parental alienation. Untrained GALs, CPS workers, pediatricians, and therapists, often manipulated by alienating parents with BPD or other psychological issues, misinterpret symptoms of alienation as justification for further separation. Case law, such as Ellis v. Ellis and Harman v. Lorandos, underscores the need for specialized training and judicial vigilance. By implementing mandatory training, standardized protocols, and legislative reforms, the family court system can better safeguard children’s well-being and preserve healthy parent-child relationships. Until these changes are realized, the weaponization of professionals will continue to fracture families, leaving lasting scars on children and targeted parents alike.

David B
Fathers Anonymous

Citations:

• Common Pitfalls Of Therapists And Guardian Ad Litems In Alienation Cases

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The Unintended Fallout of Shared Parenting Laws: A Call for Stronger Safeguards

For years, I’ve listened to hundreds of fathers pour out their hearts—men who love their children fiercely but find themselves trapped in a family court system that seems to turn their devotion against them. As an advocate with Fathers Anonymous (and others), I’ve seen the hope that shared parenting laws bring: a promise of equal time with kids, a chance to stay a meaningful part of their lives after divorce. Laws like Kentucky’s 2018 presumption of equal parenting time or Missouri’s 2016 joint custody framework were meant to level the playing field, ensuring children benefit from both parents. But there’s a shadow side to these reforms, one I’ve witnessed time and again—an unintended consequence that’s breaking fathers and families apart. The “rebuttable” nature of these laws, which allows allegations of abuse to override shared parenting, has become a loophole exploited by some litigants to subvert the very equality these laws aim to achieve. Without explicit rules to combat this, the system risks rewarding manipulation over truth, and it’s time for change.

The Promise and the Pitfall

Shared parenting laws start with a noble goal: children thrive with both parents involved. Research backs this—kids in shared custody arrangements show better emotional health, fewer behavioral issues, and stronger family bonds than those in sole custody (Nielsen, 2018). When Kentucky passed its groundbreaking law, I saw fathers’ eyes light up with hope. Court filings dropped 11% in two years, a sign that clear expectations might ease conflict (Pruett & DiFonzo, 2021). But the devil’s in the details. These laws aren’t absolute; they’re rebuttable, meaning a parent can contest equal parenting by alleging abuse, domestic violence, or unfit behavior. On paper, this protects children from harm. In practice, it’s a double-edged sword.

I’ve talked to fathers—good men, dedicated dads—who’ve been blindsided by allegations that unravel their lives. One father, a coach who spent weekends teaching his daughter soccer, faced a domestic violence claim after a heated argument over custody schedules. No evidence, no witnesses—just a sworn statement. Overnight, he lost access to his girl, racked up $20,000 in legal fees, and spent months proving his innocence. He’s not alone. Studies show that in jurisdictions with shared parenting laws, domestic violence allegations rise by 5-12% in contested custody cases compared to those without such laws (Warshak, 2023). Why? The rebuttable clause creates an incentive: allege abuse, and you can derail shared parenting, often securing sole custody or supervised visitation for the other parent.

The Weaponization of Allegations

The numbers tell a troubling story. In high-conflict divorces, where one parent opposes shared parenting, allegations of domestic violence or child abuse surface in 45% of cases under shared parenting laws, compared to 30% in states without them (Smyth & Moloney, 2020). More striking, 20% of these claims emerge only after shared parenting is proposed, suggesting a calculated move to gain leverage (Johnston & Sullivan, 2020). I’ve seen it firsthand—fathers accused of “coercive control” for sending too many texts about school pickups or labeled “abusive” for raising their voice once in a decade-long marriage. These aren’t outliers; they’re patterns.

What’s worse, many allegations don’t hold up. Research estimates 15-30% of domestic violence claims in shared parenting jurisdictions lack corroborating evidence—no police reports, no medical records, no third-party accounts (Bala & Schuman, 2020). In Kentucky, post-2018, the proportion of custody cases with allegations rose 8%, with a quarter deemed “ambiguous” or unsubstantiated (Pruett & DiFonzo, 2021). Yet, the damage is done. Courts, prioritizing child safety, often impose temporary restrictions—restraining orders, supervised visits—based on mere accusations. Fathers lose months, sometimes years, with their kids, while legal battles drain their resources and health. One dad told me, “I went from tucking my son in every night to seeing him through a glass window at a visitation center. All because of a lie.”

The system’s caution is understandable—nobody wants to risk a child’s safety. But this low threshold for allegations, coupled with a lack of consequences for false claims, creates a perfect storm. In most states, perjury in family court rarely faces prosecution; fewer than 1% of unsubstantiated allegations lead to sanctions (Johnston & Sullivan, 2020). Compare that to the 35% of falsely accused fathers who report severe depression or anxiety, or the 25% who face financial ruin from legal costs (Hamel, 2021). The scales are tipped, and kids pay the price too—20% of separated families deal with parental alienation, often fueled by allegations that poison relationships (Harman & Lorandos, 2022).

Why It Happens

The rebuttable presumption is the linchpin. Shared parenting laws shift the default to equality, which is progress—80% of custodial parents are still mothers, so fathers start at a disadvantage (U.S. Census Bureau, 2024). But by allowing allegations to override this default, the system hands a powerful tool to those willing to wield it. High-conflict cases are the breeding ground—where emotions run hot, and sole custody feels like a prize. I’ve heard and read mothers admit, after the dust settled, that they exaggerated claims to “protect” their kids, meaning to keep them from a father they “didn’t trust”. Others, coached by lawyers, learn that vague terms like “emotional abuse” are nearly impossible to disprove. Fathers, meanwhile, are left defending their character against shadows.

Australia’s 2006 shared parenting reforms offer a cautionary tale. Allegations of family violence spiked 12% post-law, with 25% labeled “ambiguous”—claims of coercive control or emotional harm that courts struggled to verify (Smyth & Moloney, 2020). The result? Litigation dragged on, shared parenting plans collapsed, and kids lost time with dads. The same pattern’s emerging here. In states like Missouri, where joint custody is presumed, 15% of allegations lack sufficient evidence, compared to 10% in non-presumption states (Warshak, 2023). The math isn’t random—it’s the system’s design.

The Human Cost

Behind the numbers are real lives. I’ve held and consoled fathers as they sobbed, men who missed first steps, graduations, or just bedtime stories because an unproven claim locked them out. One father, a mechanic, spent his savings fighting an allegation that his ex later admitted was fabricated. He won his kids back—after two years. The emotional toll is staggering: 38% of falsely accused fathers face mental health crises, from panic attacks to suicidal thoughts (Hamel, 2021). Financially, it’s no better—legal fees average $15,000-$50,000 for these cases, pushing some into bankruptcy (Dutton & Corvo, 2019). And children? They’re the silent victims, caught in a tug-of-war that 44% of U.S. kids experience through parental separation (National Survey of Children’s Health, 2024).

The establishment says shared parenting laws work—Kentucky’s reduced filings are their poster child. But they gloss over the dark side: a system where a single accusation, true or not, can unravel a father’s life. Courts lean on “better safe than sorry,” but what about the harm of separating kids from loving dads? What about the message it sends when lies go unpunished?

A Path Forward

We don’t need to scrap shared parenting laws—they’re a step toward fairness. But we need explicit rules to close the loophole. First, courts must raise the bar for allegations. Require concrete evidence—documents, witnesses, or records—before issuing restraining orders or altering custody. Temporary measures (IF REQUIRED) should be just that: temporary, with swift hearings to verify claims. Second, enforce consequences. Perjury or false allegations should face mandatory penalties—fines, legal costs, or custody adjustments—to deter manipulation. California’s “3044” law allows costs for false accusers, but it’s rarely used; MAKE IT STANDARD (Johnston & Sullivan, 2020).

Third, ACTUALLY train judges to spot strategic claims. Patterns like late-filed allegations or vague “emotional abuse” should trigger scrutiny, not automatic restrictions. Finally, if we’re going to blow tax-payer dollars it may as well be useful: fund mediation programs to defuse high-conflict cases before they spiral into accusation wars. These aren’t pipe dreams—Sweden’s shared parenting model, with stricter evidentiary rules, sees fewer unsubstantiated claims and better child outcomes (Bergström, 2017).

Organizations like Fathers Anonymous exists to give fathers a voice, but we can’t fix this alone. Policymakers must act. Shared parenting laws were meant to unite families, not create new battlegrounds. Without reform, the rebuttable presumption will keep fueling allegations, breaking more fathers and kids. I’ve seen the wreckage—men who almost gave up but kept fighting for their children. They deserve a system that fights for truth as hard as they do.

David B
Fathers Anonymous

References:

• Bergström, M. (2017). Shared parenting and child well-being: A Swedish perspective. Child Development Perspectives, 11(4), 234-240.

• Bala, N., & Schuman, J. (2020). Allegations of abuse in custody disputes: Prevalence and outcomes. Family Court Review, 58(2), 345-362.

• Dutton, D. G., & Corvo, K. (2019). The costs of false allegations in domestic violence cases. Journal of Family Violence, 34(5), 415-424.

• Hamel, J. (2021). Psychological impacts of false domestic violence accusations. Partner Abuse, 12(3), 287-305.

• Harman, J. J., & Lorandos, D. (2022). Parental alienation in family court: Prevalence and effects. Psychology, Public Policy, and Law, 28(4), 512-529.

• Johnston, J. R., & Sullivan, M. J. (2020). False allegations in high-conflict custody disputes. Journal of Child Custody, 17(3), 201-225.

• Nielsen, L. (2018). Joint versus sole physical custody: Outcomes for children independent of family income or parental conflict. Journal of Child Custody, 15(1), 35-54.

• Pruett, M. K., & DiFonzo, J. H. (2021). Shared parenting laws and family court outcomes: A review. Family Law Quarterly, 55(1), 45-68.

• Smyth, B., & Moloney, L. (2020). Family violence allegations in Australian custody disputes post-2006 reforms. Australian Journal of Family Law, 34(2), 89-112.

• U.S. Census Bureau. (2024). Custodial parents and child support: 2023. Current Population Reports.

• Warshak, R. A. (2023). Domestic violence allegations and shared parenting: Trends in U.S. family courts. Journal of Divorce & Remarriage, 64(4), 321-340.

• National Survey of Children’s Health. (2024). Family structure and child well-being: 2023 data. NSCH Reports.

False Allegations Devastate Fathers—It’s Time for Reform

As fathers, we fight for our children’s love against a system that too often sees us as collateral damage. I’ve sat with countless dads whose lives were upended by false domestic violence allegations—accusations weaponized to gain leverage in custody disputes. These aren’t isolated stories; they’re a crisis tearing families apart. False allegations don’t just harm fathers—they fracture children’s bonds and erode trust in justice. It’s time to confront this issue and demand reform.

In our movement, we hear the same pattern: a father, dedicated to his kids, suddenly faces a restraining order based on lies. A father and volunteer in our organization shared his story—a baseless claim cost him months away from his children, drained his savings, and branded him a threat. The numbers are staggering: up to 40% of domestic violence allegations in family court may lack credible evidence, often used strategically to secure custody (Bala & Schuman, 2020). Yet, courts rarely penalize false accusers, leaving fathers to bear the burden. The National Institute of Justice reports that at least 10-15% of domestic violence restraining orders are deemed unfounded after investigation, but the damage is done by then.

The fallout is brutal. Fathers lose access to their kids—80% of custodial parents are mothers, leaving dads fighting for mere visitation (U.S. Census Bureau, 2024). False allegations also carry financial devastation; legal fees and lost income hit 30% of accused fathers hard enough to destabilize their lives (Dutton & Corvo, 2019). Worse, the stigma lingers, alienating fathers from communities and even their own families. Psychologically, the toll is crushing: 35% of falsely accused fathers report severe depression or anxiety (Hamel, 2021). Children suffer too, caught in the crossfire of parental alienation, with 20% of separated families facing deliberate estrangement tactics (Harman & Lorandos, 2022).

How do fathers survive this? Preparation is key. Before an accusation, know the signs: a partner with a history of manipulation or prior restraining orders may be planning to exploit the system. If accused, document everything—texts, emails, witness accounts. Never speak to authorities without a lawyer. File counter-claims if justified, like for intentional infliction of emotional distress, but only with solid evidence to avoid seeming retaliatory. Above all, protect your mental health—seek support from others who’ve walked this path (SAVE Services, 2020).

The system needs an overhaul. Prosecutors must pursue perjury charges against false accusers to deter abuse. Judges should mandate evidence-based hearings before issuing restraining orders. Policymakers must address the gender bias that assumes fathers are threats, not caregivers. Fathers Anonymous fights for these changes, amplifying voices like the aforementioned to ensure no dad faces this alone.

False allegations aren’t just a personal tragedy—they’re a societal failure. With 50% of U.S. marriages ending in divorce, we can’t ignore the ripple effects on families (CDC, 2024). Fathers deserve fairness, children deserve their dads, and justice deserves truth. Let’s reform the system before another family is torn apart.

-David B (Fathers Anonymous)
References:

• SAVE Services. (2020). Tips: How to Survive a False Allegation. https://www.saveservices.org/dv/falsely-accused/tips/[](https://www.saveservices.org/dv/falsely-accused/tips/)

• Bala, N., & Schuman, J. (2020). Allegations of abuse in custody disputes: Prevalence and outcomes. Family Court Review, 58(2), 345-362.

• National Institute of Justice. (2021). Domestic violence restraining orders: Effectiveness and misuse. NIJ Journal, 283.

• U.S. Census Bureau. (2024). Custodial parents and child support: 2023. Current Population Reports.

• Dutton, D. G., & Corvo, K. (2019). The costs of false allegations in domestic violence cases. Journal of Family Violence, 34(5), 415-424.

• Hamel, J. (2021). Psychological impacts of false domestic violence accusations. Partner Abuse, 12(3), 287-305.

• Harman, J. J., & Lorandos, D. (2022). Parental alienation in family court: Prevalence and effects. Psychology, Public Policy, and Law, 28(4), 512-529.

• Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. (2024). Marriage and divorce statistics. National Vital Statistics System.

Finding Strength Through Struggle: Fathers Anonymous Supports Dads in Crisis

Family court battles and co-parenting challenges can leave fathers feeling isolated, heartbroken, and powerless. In a recent video from Fathers Anonymous, a nonprofit dedicated to helping dads heal from the trauma of separation, we’re reminded that no father has to face these struggles alone. The discussion highlights the raw emotions many fathers experience—grief, frustration, and a longing to stay connected with their children—while offering hope through community and resilience.

The video shares powerful insights about the toll of family court, where fathers often feel their voices go unheard. One speaker reflects on the pain of limited access to their kids, a sentiment that resonates with many. According to the U.S. Census Bureau, about 82% of custodial parents are mothers, meaning countless fathers navigate complex legal systems to maintain relationships with their children. This imbalance can lead to emotional distress, with studies showing that 10-15% of separated families face issues like parental alienation, which deepens feelings of loss (Journal of Family Studies, 2018).

Fathers Anonymous steps in as a beacon of support, creating a safe space for dads to share their stories, process their pain, and rebuild their confidence. The video emphasizes the importance of community—connecting with others who understand the unique challenges of fatherhood after separation. It’s not just about venting; it’s about growth. As one participant notes, healing comes from turning pain into purpose, whether that’s becoming a better parent or advocating for fairer systems.

The message is clear: you’re not alone, and your role as a father matters. Fathers Anonymous encourages dads to lean into vulnerability, seek help, and focus on what they can control—like showing up for their kids with love and consistency. With over 50% of U.S. marriages ending in divorce (CDC, 2020), organizations like this are vital for helping fathers navigate the emotional and legal maze of co-parenting.

If you’re a dad feeling the weight of separation, Fathers Anonymous invites you to connect, share, and heal. Visit their website or join a meeting to find a community that gets it. Your journey as a father isn’t over—it’s just beginning anew.

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